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For NICU Parents

Clinical Knowledge. Family Focus. For the Neonatal Community.

The birth of a child is a wondrous, life-changing experience. It is a time of great joy and emotion, but it may also be a time of worries and questions. For the parents of premature babies, these worries and questions are amplified—from the moment of birth to the moment your child gets to come home. While at times you may feel overwhelmed, it may help to know that you are not alone.

For parents of babies requiring specialized care, knowledge is a key to helping with the child's progress and growth. The more you know and understand about your baby's needs, the more you can advocate for them and your needs to the staff who help to care for them.

The good news is, we are here to help. We have a wealth of information, support, and resources to help you understand the process of caring for your newborn baby.

Learn more about prematurity, the NICU, your role and much more from clinicians and fellow parents.

As a New Parent of a NICU Baby…

As with full-term births, one thing is certain—you can expect anything. This is a new experience, one that all the reading and research in the world cannot fully prepare you for.

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As parents of a baby in the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit (NICU), whether your baby was born prematurely or full-term, you may face various challenges. The NICU provides specialized care for newborns who need close monitoring and medical attention. You might spend a lot of time with your baby in the NICU, and while the journey can be long and difficult, it ensures your baby receives the best possible care and support from specialists.
It's important to remember that you are not alone. The NICU staff is there to support you and your baby every step of the way. Many hospitals also offer resources such as counseling services, support groups, and educational materials to help you navigate this challenging time. Connecting with other parents who have had similar experiences can also provide comfort and valuable insights.

In some cases, your baby may be sick and require around-the-clock care, and may possibly experience one or more of the following complications:

  • Breathing problems such as apnea, which is a temporary cessation of breathing
  • Respiratory distress
  • Physiological defects such as heart valve abnormalities

However, you can also expect that in the NICU, everything is being done to ensure your baby's growth and development.

Explaining the NICU

In the NICU, you’ll have the aid and care of a dedicated, highly trained staff, as well as the most technologically advanced equipment. Learn more about the special care environment to make yourself more comfortable in your baby's NICU space:

What Is the NICU?

The Neonatal Intensive Care Unit (NICU) is where your newborn will stay for days, weeks, or possibly longer, depending on the baby’s gestational age and or special care needs. This department or area in the hospital is where hospital staff care for newborns who have medical complications, or babies who have been born prematurely.

Here, your baby will be provided with the optimal environment for growth. And you can be right there the whole time. Though the environment in the NICU can be intimidating, health care professionals will familiarize you with it so you can participate in the care process.

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This is how a modern NICU may look: There are different layouts to NICU care areas.  Some may have single patient rooms, while others may have "pods" with 2 or more babies.
A NICU baby's environment is integral to supporting their outcomes.  Minimizing noise, providing ambient lighting and optimizing parental involvement are three ways to support baby's growth and development.

Your Role in the NICU

As parents, you play an important role in your baby’s health and well-being. It’s natural to feel overwhelmed as you navigate this new environment and learn about your baby’s needs. Remember, you are not alone in this journey. The NICU team is here to support you and your baby, providing guidance and care every step of the way.

Take things one day at a time, and don’t hesitate to ask questions or seek help. Your presence and love are incredibly valuable, and together with the NICU staff, you are giving your baby the best possible care. It's okay to lean on the support systems available to you, including counseling services, support groups, and other parents who have been through similar experiences. Your strength and dedication are important but remember to also take care of yourself during this time.

How To Get Involved?

While the work in each NICU is different, you are part of the “team” as your baby’s voice. How will you do that? The following tips will help you think about taking on this role.

The following tips from a NICU nurse have been collected and written by Lori Ives-Baine, RN, MN, Toronto, Canada.

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Parents Are Key in Helping in the NICU

As I stared at my daughter in her incubator, frozen in place by fear and worry and huge doubt about my place as a mother, I figured the medical team surrounding her knew her better than I did and knew better how to take care of her. Other than providing breastmilk, I was basically providing my child with the minimum of care. Heck, what did I know? Apparently I knew more than I realized. My fears were well-founded but my brain knew way more as it turned out. My daughter and I were strongly connected from conception and her frustrated cries sent me into action without realizing it.

What To Expect After the NICU Stay?

Bringing Your Baby Home – Tips To Consider

When your baby was admitted to the NICU, it might have been hard to imagine the day you would take your baby home. Whether this day has come before your baby’s due date or after weeks or months of complex medical care, transitioning home can bring a mix of emotions. It’s natural to feel overwhelmed as you adjust to caring for your baby outside of the hospital environment.

Here are some tips to help you during this transition:

Take It One Step at a Time: Focus on one task at a time and give yourself grace as you adjust to this new routine.

Stay Connected with Your NICU Team: Keep in touch with the NICU staff for any questions or concerns you may have. They can provide valuable guidance and reassurance.

Build a Support Network: Reach out to family, friends, and support groups. Having a strong support system can make a big difference.

Use Available Resources: Many hospitals offer resources such as home visits, follow-up appointments, and educational materials to help you feel more confident in your baby’s care.

Trust Yourself: Remember that you have learned a lot during your time in the NICU. Trust in your abilities and instincts as a parent.

Take Care of Yourself: Make sure to take time for self-care. Your well-being is important for both you and your baby.

Every family’s journey is unique, and it’s okay to seek help and take things at your own pace. You are doing an amazing job, and with the right support, you will navigate this transition successfully.

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What NICU Parents Need To Know About the Pediatrician

Some tips on working with your child’s pediatrician to create the most useful partnership:

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Is You Baby At Risk for Readmission?

Reality is, hospitalization happens in this community, period. So prepare for it rather than have it come at you full blast and be completely unready. Some tips:

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Life After the NICU – Talk With Deb & Jen

Deb Discenza, founder of PreemieWorld, and Jennifer Degl, author of From Hope to Joy, talk about the emotions involved with leaving the NICU and going home.

Baby Heroes

Sometimes, the best support can come from parents who have already been through exactly what you are going through now. Thank you to all of the families and preemies from around the world who sent in their stories. You give hope and inspiration to the parents and families currently experiencing all of the challenges that may come with caring for a NICU baby.

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Baipoh (460 gr. / 27 weeks)

Her family lives in Phuket and the doctor there diagnosed her mother with preeclampsia. Her parents then made the decision to see a doctor at another hospital where they decided to operate. Her father named her Kingfah (from heaven) and nickname "Baipoh" (leaf of Buddha). She stayed in the hospital for around 4 months; in the NICU for around 2 months and 1 week and in the ward for around 1 month and 3 weeks. Her mother's blood pressure was not yet stable so she didn't get to meet her daughter until 3 days after her birth. The first day they met was hard for her mother as Kingfah was in the incubator with many tubes, oxygen and lots of things. Now she's healthy but her weight is still under average weight. She speaks well and does not have any issues. Her dream job is to be a doctor and to help people. She's lively, always smiling, and she loves singing and the piano.


For NICU Parents - Babyhero Rio
Rio (2352 gr. / 37 weeks + 3 days)

When Rio was born, the doctor told his mother that he would have less than a 10% chance to celebrate his 1st birthday because he has Trisomy 13 Syndrome. It was incredibly sad and difficult news for Rio’s parents but they decided together that even if it’s difficult to live longer, they would become s tronger. It has been four years since they made that decision. Rio and his family love to visit the sea, go on skiing trips and venture overseas. Rio is such a strong boy. His smile is his super power. It gives his family and everyone else around him energy.



For NICU Parents - Babyhero Joshua and James
Joshua (907 gr. / 26 weeks) James (680 gr. / 26 weeks)

The twins were born at 26 weeks, Joshua weighing 2lb, James weighing 1lb 8oz. Their parents feel so blessed and lucky as the boys are now healthy 7-year-olds with endless amounts of energy and beautiful little personalities to boot. There have been no ongoing health issues, which is incredible considering their prematurit y. They‘re fantastic at sport, doing very well academically and showing a keen musical ability already too, particularly Joshua who would like to play the drums! Joshua said his superpower would be „to bring everyone we love in heaven back to life again“...his words (rather profound!). James said his superpower would be „to make people happy and nice to each other“...(His parents are quietly impressed!) Joshua would like to be a famous tennis player when he grows up. James would like to be a Formula 1 Driver and a Paleontologist when he grows up!

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Kalle (740 gr. / 24 weeks + 4 days)

The beginning of Kalle’s life was dramatic. He was delivered by emergency C-section. His twin sister, Astrid, died during childbirth. Kalle and his mother were 6 or 7 minutes from not making it but fortunately everything turned for the better. Today Kalle is a spirited and happy little kid who never stays still and always has something going on. He loves motorcycles and cars!

For NICU Parents - Babyhero Carter
Carter (865 gr. / 29 weeks + 2 days)

HELLP syndrome. They both nearly died. Carter stayed in NICU for 3 months and came home on his due date. He had a hernia operation and he was on oxygen. Fortunately he was able to come off it after his hernia operation. Carter has chronic lung disease so during the winter months he spends a lot of time in the hospital on nebulizers. He is still seeing consultants from the hospital where he was born. His super power is his strong will and braveness. Even on nebulizers he smiles and entertains the staff. He is his mom's Batman and saviour!

Glossary of NICU Terms

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